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I've read thousands of hands and the issue of "commitment" in relationships comes up again and again. No surprise there. We all long for connections. We want to find an appropriate partner. Explore with me the 3 main strategies I've discovered from reading hands on how to take your relationship to the next level and create the commitment you seek.


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A subscriber wrote in and said, "The greatest challenge that I am having in my life right now is in my relationship with my boyfriend. I am ready to take the next step in commitment, either living together or marriage. But I don't know if he will ever be ready. We have been together for 3 years, with a brief break up for a month, just a couple of months ago. The reason for the break up was non-commitment on his part. Please help with what I should do.


Everything else in my life is going well Authentic Pirates Hoodie , now that I have learned "the Secret" and use it everyday in my life. I am working on bringing more money in, too, but I need to find my true passion. Thank you so much for your interest in me."


Over the past nine years, I've read thousands of hands and the issue of "commitment" in relationships comes up again and again. No surprise there. We long for and need connection with our fellow humans. The greatest desire for most of us when it comes to relationships is finding an appropriate partner. In today's article. we'll explore 3 main strategies I've discovered from reading hands on how to take your relationship to the next level and create the commitment you seek.


Strategy #1: Your Partner is Your Mirror = Look Closely


Do you complain that your partner won't commit, doesn't keep hisher agreements Customized Pirates Jersey , won't help out around the house, etc.? Whenever this issue comes up, I find, without exception, that the individual logging the complaint has the SAME issue in their hands. So for example Cheap Pirates Jersey , Andrea wants her husband to pick up after himself and nags him incessantly about those lonely socks on the floor. Andrea secretly dreams of being a writer - she has a writing gift marker in her hand. When I ask Andrea, "Andrea, what are YOU doing to further your writing ambitions?" I am met with a blank stare. Sometimes, just sometimes, the person receiving the hand analysis session will perk up and say Colin Moran Pirates Jersey , "Oh, my goodness, I see what you mean. I'm nagging after him when I should be writing." Righto! The "mirror effect" isn't always obvious - writing and picking up one's socks may not, at first glance, have a lot in common.


Here's my Coach's Challenge:


What is the CORE ISSUE of your complaint with your partner and how does this mirror back something in yourself? In Andrea's case JB Shuck Pirates Jersey , it's lack of action. Once you have the "core issue," ask YOURSELF, where do I need to apply this wisdom to move forward in my own self-development? (Note: Sometimes finding our what our partner is mirroring means we need to move on from the relationship. I'm also not implying that you should have to put up with a slob. It's important to ask for what you need in your relationships... which brings me to strategy #2.)


Strategy #2: It Is NOT Your Partner's Job to Read Your Mind = Speak Up!


If I had a dollar for every person who has said to me, "He (or she) should just know." Really? Strategy #2 is so obvious that you should probably just *know* what it is. Just kidding. But you've heard it before - and I'm saying it again - it is absolutely essential to speak up and COMPLETE the communications in your relationships. If you find that this task falls to you again and again, your hands will no doubt reveal that learning to speak up is part of your growth journey.


What do I mean by "completing the communication?" It means making a request for something you'd like or need in the relationship Corey Dickerson Pirates Jersey , such as more alone time or more together time. It also means setting clear boundaries and also knowing when to keep your mouth shut and just listen. So many of our relationship conflicts are due to feeling a need to respond to everything that is said rather than just listening.


Here's my Coach's Challenge: What have you NOT said that you are afraid to say? I challenge you to say it and stay open to your partner's response. Many times we don't speak our truth because we're not really interested in hearing the other person's response - it may not be what we want or expect - OR their truth may scare us. You can save yourself a lot of trouble by simply addressing this before sharing your inner vulnerability. "Honey, I need to share this with you. I don't know how you're going to respond. I will do my best to stay open to your response without reacting and I invite you to share your truth with me." The less frightened we are of rejection, abandonment and attack, the easier it becomes to share our innermost truth with another (which, by the way Lonnie Chisenhall Pirates Jersey , is the dictionary definition of "intimacy.")


Strategy #3: Who Are You REALLY Committed To?


The first person to commit to is yourself. I can't overstress this. Commit to your health, your happiness, you self-awareness, your self-expansion. If you're not committed to being all you can be, you'll probably attract a fair amount of misery in your relationships. Why? You'll be expecting the other person to fill up a hole that's inside of you. In the case of the subscriber Erik Gonzalez Pirates Jersey , she mentions, "I am working on bringing more money in, too, but I need to find my true passion." This is a major clue! She wants a commitment